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When Your Battle Plan Needs Changed.

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Seven years ago, our life changed with a literal heartbeat… my husband’s. Health-wise, most all is better now, but it has taken a very long time for us to get back on our feet. His heart event and subsequent job lay-off effected our whole family and our security as we knew it. To this day, we are still unsteady.

But, it is time. It is time to embrace our reality as it is. Holding on to the idea that our life is about climbing out of the metaphorical hole in which we seem to dwell has held us back.

Facing Reality

The reality is…this is our reality.

The more we thought that we needed to get back to where we were, that our lives were supposed to look the same as they did before these two events occurred, the more we were held hostage to the notion that we were the same. As fluid, ever-changing beings, we grew through these unwelcomed events. Just like a piece of art I could never make twice, we evolved through the process and came out changed from who we were. 

Being on the wrong path doesn’t mean there aren’t good parts to embrace.

Sure we have had some highlights over the last several years. We moved back “home” to Lakeland, Florida. I am an invited artist to Walt Disney World. Two of our children graduated high school (homeschooled all the way) and are now in college.  We have enjoyed family days at the nearby gulf coast, traveled to art shows and teaching engagements all around.  We got to spend more time with my folks before my dad passed away.♡

It’s the low parts that we have let define us though. My husband and I realized a couple of years ago that things were happening that looked good but they were not necessarily good for us in the long run. Things that looked good to the public came with a lot of personal sacrifice and financial burdens. The “magic” we thought we were embracing turned our world upside down and dug us into a deeper hole.

So, we regrouped, changed our focus, invested in ourselves, and went forward with better armor.

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Warrior Pose

This “warrior artist” photo is my current profile picture on Facebook. It seems fitting for entering this new year. My caption reads…Entering 2019 with fierce determination to succeed in my business, finally climb out from this 7 year hole that continues to try and swallow us, reclaim joy in my personal life, embark on serendipitous adventures, and bask in the here and now. My word is…steps. Onward.

With all the necessary elements in place, it is this year we finally can take the steps forward. Hence, my word for the year… steps.

Good Plan, Wrong Goal

I thought I had the battle plan organized and was executing it with all the right moves. I had done my research, zeroed in on my desire and foreseen potential, and hired the right people to get me to the winning side. When my plan began to come to fruition, I realized the actions were not wrong, the goal, the one that I had been working toward for years, was wrong.

It would be easy for me to label the experience as a “crash and burn” episode, but I feel that would belittle it. The experience was an eye opening education and just like my degrees I worked so hard to attain, this learning was invaluable. It lit a fire under me and not only is sending me down a path I feel I am meant to be on, but brought me back to the roots that continue to hold me tight to the ground.

I am more in tune with myself than I have ever been and, in turn, feel I have more to give to others than I have ever had. I finally feel what other women in their fifties have described as a “coming of age.” It is not only a realization about myself, but the fortitude to live it authentically.

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Steps to Take When Your Plan Needs Changed

So, here are the specific steps I can offer when your battle plan needs changed.

  1. Turn away from what isn’t working. It does not matter how much money or time you have invested. If you know it is not working, you will waste more time and energy trying to salvage it. What’s the phrase… “fish or cut bait?” Leave it.
  2. Start from where you are. I am a big believer in reality checks. New Year’s resolutions, vision boards, power words, etc are shiny and appealing but none of them are going to provide any help to you if you are not realistic about where you are. Goals are grand but addressing your current state of affairs first gets you to your goals faster and more efficiently.
  3. Do something the long way. It doesn’t matter what. Take something in your regular day that you normally use technology or some aid to make it more convenient and do it the slow way. Pop popcorn on the stove, get up and change the channel, write a note to someone long hand (Rachelle Eason Stationery is fabulous for that!). Read my blog Lessons Learned from Slow Cooked Oatmeal for more on this.
  4. Use the Eisenhower Matrix. I recently rediscovered the Eisenhower Matrix of identifying tasks as urgent and non-urgent, important and not important. Let’s just say the realization that I can just completely drop the non-urgent/unimportant elements from my day is like giving permission to myself to have a cocktail at lunch meetings. I am my own boss; own it! Find out about the Eisenhower Matrix here.
  5. Be gentle with yourself. If you had a plan that didn’t work and you are changing it then applaud yourself for being brave to go a different way! Hooray! Brooding over what time and/or money you invested in the last plan won’t bring back those resources. I look at those experiences as education I paid for. I may not have a degree to validate that learning, but I can assure you I am more motivated from that real-world experience. Go have a drink! Celebrate! You made it through!
  6. See below…

If you run into set-backs in your new plan, as you most assuredly will, realize the difference between obstacles in a road worth taking versus the cliffhanger on the road you were on. “Should’ve, Would’ve, and Could’ve” are not invited to this plan. They were lessons learned and your growth from them guides your next moves.

Oh and number six is the most important step…

6)Take a picture of yourself! Get dressed in something that makes you feel empowered. Strike your warrior pose and snap that shot. I promise you that will be a visual that will bring you back to your plan if you fall wary and need reassurance. I even had my “Artist Warrior” made up into cards that feature my mantra on the back.

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6 thoughts on “When Your Battle Plan Needs Changed.”

  1. I can say I have gone through a similar journey but not caused by anything but me being excited by something, then something else…on and on. Fourteen years. I do consider all the time and money I spent to be part of my education but it’s tough sometimes to let go of the brooding.
    Thank you for sharing and I hope you stand tall in your warrior post and shine!
    Happy New Year!
    By-the-way, I LOVE YOUR ECO PRINTS!!!

    1. Thank you for sharing Laurie! I think that excitement that pulls us in new directions is what keeps our spirit alive and curious! When I catch myself brooding I do try to focus on the growth I have undergone through all that change. So glad you can relate! Woo hoo, strike your warrior pose too! Thanks for the kudos on my eco prints! They pretty much wrap my soul with nature. Happy New Year!

    1. Thank you, Mom! You continue to be my driving force and role model! I hope I am inspiring my children as much as you inspire me!
      Love, love, love!

  2. Dear Rachelle-
    Thank you for baring your soul in this blog entry. I am so sorry to learn about your husband’s health issue and the job lay-off that ensued several years ago and I wish for nothing but the best for you and your family for this coming year.

    Honestly, I could go crazy supporting your beautiful journal business but life has thrown us some surprises too, making splurges more difficult these days. But I cherish the pieces I DO have and you are such a talented artist, I truly hope your online business thrives and flourishes in 2019! Thinking of you!!!
    Debbie (Laura’s mom)

    1. Hi, Debbie!
      I always love how you sign your name and then (Laura’s mom)! Lol! Of course I know you but can completely relate with the “mom” label as I wear that name tag quite often around here with my kids’ associates. I have been teetering back and forth about sharing bits of our story, but then I remember how others who shared theirs with me have helped me through really tough times. It takes a village to wander through this journey of life and it is quite an adventure that cross paths with so many along the way. I am so glad you are enjoying and cherishing your pieces. That is completely inspiring to hear! I do love making them, but am so looking forward to growing in my pottery for a while. I hope to see you soon. Perhaps you will be in town when I am at EPCOT on Jan 28-Feb 3rd?

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Rachelle Eason

Rachelle Eason is an artist, inspirer, wanderer, and writer by nature. When she is not creating eco-stained artwork, journals, and stationery, she can be found on white sand beaches in the Florida sun, writing about her life and experiences, savoring a luscious piece of dark chocolate, or scoping out vegan food at her favorite local restaurants.
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